Derivations:

I've got the whole thing in notebooks progressing the other way, from the EFE to the ADM, following Baumgarte & Shapiro, so TODO copy it here.

ADM

γij,tLβγij=2αKij
Kij,tLβKij=DiDjα+α(Rij+KKij2KikKkj)

expanding Lie derivatives and projection covariant derivatives:
γij,tγij,kβkγikβk,jγkjβk,i=2αKij
Kij,tβkKij,kKkjβk,iKikβk,j=iaa(jbbα)+α(Rij+KKij2KikKkj)
=iaa(α,jnjnbα,b)+α(Rij+KKij2KikKkj)
=ia(aα,ja(njnbα,b))+α(Rij+KKij2KikKkj)
=ia(aα,janjnbα,bnjanbα,bnjnbaα,b)+α(Rij+KKij2KikKkj)
=(δianina)(α,ja4Γbjaα,b(nj,a4Γcjanc)nbα,bnj(nb,a+4Γbcanc)α,bnjnb(α,ba4Γcbaα,c))+α(Rij+KKij2KikKkj)
...is Di the same as applying the spatial connections?
Kij,tβkKij,kKkjβk,iKikβk,j
=Diα,j+α(Rij+KKij2KikKkj)
=α,ij+Γkjiα,k+α(Rij+KKij2KikKkj)